A word about Yehudah Fine's Seminars "Reclaiming Our Teenagers and Ourselves"
Teen violence, suicide and drugs . . . Scary times. Our children need us. Learn how to reach out to them effectively to build trust and love.
Yehuda Fine’s electrifying seminars have reached over 24,000 teens across North America. At each seminar teens reveal to him their deepest held secrets and concerns anonymously. These are issues they would almost never discuss with their best friend or their parent.
The message of Rabbi Yehudah Fine's seminars is simple but not easy—teens want to be close to their parents and teachers. We need courage, honesty and some basic tools to reach out to them. The stakes are high—the rewards, priceless! Yet so many parents have lost confidence in their ability to parent and to transmit values. Sometimes the walls seem so high. Rabbi Fine shows parents and teachers how, in the midst of fear and discomfort, they can take steps to restore and enrich the family. Through it all, his message contains reminders of the higher spiritual purpose behind every word we speak and every move we make. Yehudah Fine, noted lecturer and family therapist, is the author of Times Square Rabbi — Finding the Hope in Lost Kids' Lives (Hazelden), and a member of the guidance staff at Yeshiva University. His newspaper columns on teen issues have appeared in newspapers throughout the country.
"We've made Yehudah's work a part of our family education program. Our parents and teens were so moved by his compassion. It's very clear that he has been listening carefully to the thousands of young people with whom he has worked."
—Rabbi Howard Addison, Temple Sinai, Philadelphia, PA
"Rabbi Fine's work is for everyone struggling to be renewed by timeless simple truths in the midst of all our modern desperation. He reflects and teaches the simple and sustaining sweetness of the human capacity for love, hope, and resilience."
—Kirk Barton, M.D., Department of Psychiatry, Harvard Medical School
"Rabbi Fine's work is an invitation to us all. The rabbi is modeling a path for healing the wounds of denial and unexpressed love we carry. The Rabbi teaches us that when we truly become engaged in life, our appreciation for being alive grows. He shows us a road that passes through others' lives and leads us back to ourselves. But we arrive home enriched, in touch, and with a larger heart as a result of the journey."
—Earl Hipp, Author of Help for the Hard Times: Getting Through Loss and other books for adolescents.
Teens Seminar "The Real Dope" Real Answers to Tough Questions
Rabbi Fine will conduct sessions that provide meaningful and practical answers to the burning questions your teens are asking. He will encourage them to turn to their families for the answers to these questions. He will encourage a stronger link with the family.
"I've made a terrible mistake. It's really going to hurt my parents. I'm afraid to tell them. Should I?"
"I think one of my close friends is in real trouble with drugs. Should I do anything about it?"
"I'm having trouble in my math class and the teacher only cares about the kids who are doing well. How am I going to get through the class?"
"I heard there was a wild party and one of the guys got a friend of mine drunk and I think he had sex with her. What should I do?"
"If God cares so much about the world, why is there so much suffering?"
Yehudah Fine has worked with teens from every socio-economic class. His training and experience allows him to translate questions of values and beliefs into real-world terms that can drastically change lives.
Parents Seminar "Just How Am I Supposed to Answer That?" Practical Advice for the Tough Questions Teenagers Ask (or wish they could)
In his national lecture tours, Rabbi Fine has encountered countless teenagers. These teens consistently tell him how they wish their parents would give them specific advice. They really do want help dealing with life’s moral and ethical dilemmas. Rabbi Fine empowers parents, encouraging them to take a positive and proactive stand on the issues that trouble today’s youth—sexuality, alcohol and drug abuse, depression, suicide, spirituality, and more. This seminar will give parents the direction they need to engage their children in meaningful conversation through positive, thoughtful, and straight forward dialogue. Such dialogue can strengthen a child’s character along with helping parents discover and reinforce their own deeply held views.
Therapists & Teachers Seminar "Street Kids, Your Kids, Consequences, and Hope" Teaching Teens to Think About Consequences
Teens feel invulnerable. But impulsive actions can put them in danger. Children must learn to think in terms of consequences in order to develop ways of thinking constructively. Rabbi Fine’s experience with lost teens in Times Square applies to “regular” teens as well. He has refined methods that help teenagers from across the spectrum understand consequences. They can, and do, learn to trust their own inner moral compass. Throughout his travels, Rabbi Fine has asked thousands of parents and teens about the essential questions they want answered. Drawing on what he learned, Fine has developed a range of discussions and techniques that have proven helpful to professionals across the country. Rabbi Fine provides training in:
The basics of understanding family systems.
The key questions to ask teens and their families in the first sessions to help chart the direction of treatment in order to arrive at a strong working hypothesis for each family.
The different kinds of trouble kids get into according to the family system they come from.
How certain family systems give rise to violence and abuse
The core issues teens raise today and how they relate to the family of origin. Topics include: Drug and alcohol experimentation and abuse, depression, suicidal ideation, sexuality and intimacy, violence, and spirituality and the quest for meaning.
Brief interventive therapy: The teaching of the Miracle Tale and its applications for teenagers.
The quest for deeper meaning and insight: How to bring spiritual teaching and values into therapy and the classroom.
The issues of the wounded healer: Working with personal spiritual issues that turn burn-out into inspiration and growth.
How to get Close to your Kids 10 Suggestions from Yehudah Fine
Tell your children you love them and why.
Stay in touch with your kid's world—their music and their friends. Make your home a place for their friends.
Stay in close communication with your child. Don't use poverty or overwork as excuses.
Be flexible. What worked when your child was 9 is irrelevant at 16. And what worked for your parents when raising you might not work for your children today.
Don't let mistakes as a parent make you stop trying. Children learn mightily from how you deal with life.
Effective parenting depends strongly on having a working relationship with your spouse or ex-spouse. By working together, you help build self-confidence and strength in your child.
As a parent you don't have to be perfect. It's okay to be inconsistent at times. Let your kid know about how you struggle with important issues.
Be prepared to get competent professional help if your child is in serious trouble.
Put prime time into your family life. Invest in family at least what you invest in your career.
Admit your feelings of discomfort in discussing the "hot topics" (sex., drugs, etc.) Sharing your vulnerabilities builds your teen's character.